Cool New Chat Feature on Crush or Flush!

Chatting and online dating seem to go hand and hand these days.  You can't look into your potential sweetie's eyes but you can stare into the chat window of someone you really want to talk to on Crush on Flush's new chat client!

It does not allow your new interest to hide behind numerous profiles so they can mack with all the interesting ladies on the site.  One profile is allowed and tied to one cell phone number.  The number is used to verify the person who is signing up is a real person and not some skeezer with 15 different free email accounts.

And that's not all!  Crush or Flush only allows you to chat with someone who you have a Mutual crush on!  Didn't think that guy who crushed you was so hot?  Then don't worry, he will never get to chat and stalk you on Crush or Flush.  Only if you think he is fly will he get to talk to you. But you had better be on your game too!  That guy you just crushed may not crush you back.  If he doesn't then it's NO CHAT FOR YOU!

At What Point Did Today Go Back To 1960?

I was just ending my work day and thought I would check the weather.  The link to the following article got my attention (courtesy of WRAL.com):

Wal-Mart Altercation Leads to Charges

Donovan Patrick Williams faces weapons and drug charges after an incident outside the Greenville (NC) Wal-Mart Friday.

According to police, Williams accosted a bi-racial couple outside the store, then shot at their vehicle. Williams was charged with assault with a deadly weapon, discharging a firearm, marijuana possession and five other misdemeanors.

At a hearing on Monday, District Attorney Clark Everett declined to add a hate crimes charge to those Williams is facing. The racial aspect of Williams' alleged crimes will be taken into account in sentencing, Greenville police said. Copyright 2008 by WRAL.com. All rights reserved.

I cannot believe this.  Of course, no specifics about the races of the agressor or the couple have been released, but what happened!  Just when you think we are making progress, you see this!

 

Was the guy mad because his ex went over the color line?  Maybe his interracial love interest rejected him.  Maybe his behind is just crazy! 

 

What do you think?  Is this prevalent where you are?  Has anything like this (and hopefully not to this extent) ever happened to you?

 

I was approached once in a mall in Greensboro, NC.  I was with the white guy I was dating at the time.  He walked away to look at something and his "brotha" came up and starting cussing me out under his breath.  I replied with the not-so-nice version of "leave me alone, dummy" and not so quietly and walked off.  Suppose that fool had been as crazy as this guy. 

 

I didn't know this guy from a can of paint, but he felt the need to walk up to me and express his "opinion".  What did he expect me to do?  Walk away from "Jared" and live my life within the (color) lines?  What is wrong with people!

 

Geez!

 

Song choice for this one is obvious! 

 

It Don't Make Any Difference To Me

What the World Thinks About Us, Baby

In my heart I will always believe!

That we were meant for each other

Love ain't got no color

It don't make any difference to me

What they see...

 

Amen!

February 2008...Where's the Love???

Here I am two days after Valentine's.  I had a busy day so I decided to chill and hang out with a friend tonight.  Unfortunately, the flu has gripped him.  (He MAY have gotten it from me last week while he was being nice and bringing me dinner.)  Anyway, it gave me a chance to catch up on email, read some blogs of friends.  The thing that got me was the running theme of loneliness.
 
Many of us are older, single (most never married), professionals.  We are some male, some female.  All alone.  Most of us are in the neighborhood of 40...either seasoned residents or soon to move in.  All of us seemingly great people...just alone.

The blog that struck me the most was John's.  He has moved to Baltimore within the last year or so.  He talked about how his elderly neighbor existed, alone, no visitors, no relationship with his neighbors, nothing...just him and his cane.   His blog continued to compare his existence with that of his neighbor.  Exploring the differences (if any exist) and mostly the likeness of the two.  After reading, I found myself in the same boat.  I don't know any of my neighbors' names (except the two year old next door, Lucas.)   The chick below me is just evil walking.  Another neighbor?  She works graveyard so we just exchange polite "Morning"'s as I leave to begin my day and she is ending hers.  The other girl is only around when her parents come to visit (Her dad is one tough looking Marine...if he was my dad, I would fake it at this level, too!)

So, my analytic self moves on to the next point.  My train of thought is always: 1) Problem, 2) Desired solution, 3) Course of action and 4) Execute plan.

We know what the problem is:  we are alone but not satisfied with being alone.

What's the solution?  To have that wonderful partner of substance to be the icing on the cake of the wonderful lives we are building.

Here is where I am stuck:  Course of action.  What have we not done?  I have online profiles on dating sites.  I used to chat but work life has interrupted that.  Plus, considering my dating preferences, it is easier to find someone with the same mindset online.  What am I not doing?  Getting out...meeting people in real life. 
Maybe I do have my course of action.  Maybe I need to get out more.  But meanwhile, I want to reach out again.  My online friends and acquaintances are in the same boat.  What can we do for each other? 

It really sucks (and that's a technical term) that so many feel the same way!

Need a Laugh Today?

You know I think the YouTube was the best thing to hit the Net in a LONG time!  I can find video clips of anything!  Well, today my coworker and I needed a laugh.  About that time, I got an email with a link to the clip below.  Adding to their long list of lovely musical numbers, Brian and Stewie belt out a tribute to the Emmy's from this year's broadcast.  Taking pock shots at the fall schedule and dancing their hearts at the same time looks like a breeze to them!  Check it out...

{CLIP HAS SINCE BEEN REMOVED :( }

Daniel!!! I am RIGHT...HERE! LOL

I am checking out an artist I found out about last month.  Marc Ronson is featuring him on his single, "Stop Me" (check that out too)!  His name is Daniel Merriweather!  From Australia, I am not sure how long he has been around but he sounds good to me!  :)   I am posting his single "City Blues" for you to check out.  Look for this dude!  Not only does he sounds good, he is not bad on the eyes (Ladies!). Too bad he looks 12!  LOL!

Where Have You Been!

Hey!  What's going on?  Not a lot here.  Still taking care of my family and friends.  Still working like I know nothing else.  I have few ventures under way.  I have created a couple of BF/WM designs for us interracial relationship lovers!

You know I had to do something to help me support my iTunes habit!  LOL!  I am going to try to add posts more frequently now.  Sharing is one of my favorite things to do...especially sharing music. 

Before I go, I thought I would share this new song I have been listening to.  Definitely right in line with my dating preference!  It is a song that speaks to two people coming together no matter their colors or backgrounds... in other words, Love Conquers All! Check it out!

 

Updates For Ya!

Well, it has been about 4 months since I have written here.  Of course, the last thing I wrote was about shopping...my current true love!  LOL!  Unfortunately, things remain the same here.  Still have not run into my partner...of course, I have not been looking much either!  I had met what I thought was a nice guy but he too has fallen into the lot of men who cannot seem to tell the truth to save their lives.  I won't get into what happened but he knows who he is and what he did...and even more importantly, He (as in the Lord Above) knows what he did. 

My family life is good.  I am so grateful for (most of) them...but especially my little buddy (too bad he can't read!)  LOL! 

I think yesterday (the 23rd) hit me hard as far as partners and soulmates are concerned since it was the 15th anniversary of my uncle's death.  He and my aunt were the prime examples of soulmates in my life and they seemed to have the type of relationship/marriage that deep inside I still long for.   (I am glad this is not a want that consumes my life or I would probably be a complete wreck right now.)  I wrote about my aunt and uncle in an earlier post.  And it is as true today as it was when I wrote it, my aunt STILL has not even as much as looked at another man.  My uncle was her soulmate, her true love.  That space can never be filled by anyone else to her. 

I still wonder if there is a soulmate for each person and are there some lucky folks who have more than one. 

My career is going well.  I have a new job with the same company...MUCH less stress and BS...that is ALWAYS a good thing.  I actually have the time to date and spend with someone if I wanted to...of course, there is no one to spend that time with!  LOL!  What a vicious circle!

I am trying to stay hopeful but I know it is not getting any easier as the days pass.   I am curious if anyone else is having the difficulty I am.  I am beginning to believe that finding your soulmate when you date interracially is getting harder by the day! 

I often get emails from folks from all over the world thanks to this blog...I am hoping someone will email me and reassure my hope that love is truly possible!  Let me know if you have been successful in finding your soulmate.

 

IKEA! We Need YOU!

OK - So I am showing my support!  I am a FIERCE Ikea lover and want one in my backyard, too!  Looks like I am not alone...check out this petition! 

• If you live in NC, please sign it and pass on the link to others in the area. 
• If you don't live in NC, pass the link on to friends of yours who do!

www.Ikea-RDU.com

Help Find A Marine's Sister!

It is not often that I post things that are circulated to me.  I rarely send out chain emails or the like...but when I saw this email today at work, I was compeled to send it out.  When I saw that her brother is a member the brotherhood known as the US Marines, I stopped what I was doing to post this message.  It is NOT a hoax...if you know any one in the New Hampshire/Vermont/Boston, MA area, PLEASE pass this on.  

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Hi all-

You know that I never bother you with forwards or fill your inboxes with messages asking you to send something on to the next 20 people in 5 minutes so please realize that this e-mail is not another mass forward...Its important because it involves my cousin and maybe you can help.

My cousin Laura didn't come home from high school on March 8th and she has been missing since that time.  She is a senior, relatively quiet and it appeared that her biggest concern when I saw her on March 5th was what college she was planning to attend.  This is truly not in her character and everyone in my family is confused and upset.  Maybe she is overwhelmed with her senior year or her relationship with her boyfriend but to me, she is not someone who would seek attention in this way.  Her brother is in the Marines in Iraq and she already knows what anxiety her parents are experiencing and I really do not believe that she would add to it.  Granted, maybe this situation may end fine but the police have been investigating for over a week and they have no leads and still have not been able to find her.

Maybe this is a long shot but I don't know what to do in this situation.  Especially since she lives in New Hampshire, I feel helpless to this situation.  Especially if you know anyone or went to college with anyone from the NH, VT, Boston area, can you please pass along this e-mail and link to her site with info.  Who knows- I can't help but try....It has her picture and contact info.

http://www.findlaura.org

Thank you

Personal Discovery

I think I may have found the fatal flaw.  I can be one of the most patient people you will meet.  Rush hour traffic does not bother me.  Long lines at the store?  No problem.  I even offer my differing opinion to the complaining fusspots in line.  Children I have the most patience for.  The thing/people that I don't have patience with seem to be those in my romantic life.

Maybe it is a product of my results-driven career but I seem to have less and less time for the men in my life.  For me, I can pretty much tell from the start if something or someone is what I want to invest my time in.  So if an interest is expressed to me but not acted upon for 3 or 4 weeks, you can pretty much bet my interest has waned...probably to an irreversable nothing.  Basically, I would like an interest shown or at least my possible interest being "kept warm".  But I know that takes work.  Something that a lot of folks don't want to do. 

Maybe that is because to me it shows indecisiveness and a lack of passion.  A few of my girlfriends and I have had this conversation lately about the general lack of passion in the world. 

I don't think I ask for much.  I have waited this long for the right (or closest to right) guy to come along.  Personally, I would rather stay alone than know that the guy next to me has settled for me and I don't want to settle for him either.  Maybe the problem is that I make up my mind too early in the midst of things but I have learned not to put my feelings or time into something without some indication that I will get the same in return.  Personally, I could not sit on a decision for a month or two and then come back thinking things have not changed.  It doesn't work that way.  Am I wrong about that?  Maybe...but wrong works for me. 

I Smiled...

Today began as a hard day. 

I was supposed to work from home which I did until about 11:30am when the resident evil known as Time Warner Cable had an outage in my area.  There went my internet!  I gave them 30 minutes to get things back online after I reported...at Noon, I had NOTHING BUT STATIC!  So there I go, getting dressed and heading out to Panera Bread.  The first Panera was slam packed...so I go to the one near my old place.  Busy but not packed...folks grabing the grub and heading out...left me a primo table in the corner.  The guy at the counter hooked me up with lunch...thank you dear!  More spending money for the weekend. 

Now I am neck deep in working and working hard when a gray Jeep Cherokee pulls into a parking space near my window and catches my eye.  Out of the Jeep comes a cute older man...maybe about 65.  He had gray hair and a face that carried remnants of great attractiveness peppered with lines of experience.  I wondered to myself just how handsome was he "back in the day".  I watched as he walked around to the passenger side of the Jeep and opened the door.  Out popped the cutest little lady.  She probably was a little younger than the driver but seemed to walk with her own personal spotlight.  She was absolutely beaming.  The driver shut the door, hit the remote lock and instinctively reached for the woman's hand.  They made their way toward the door...hand in hand...talking...smiling...laughing a little...engulfed in their own spotlight of warmth and love.  He held open the door and escorted her, her hand in the crook of his arm, to the counter where they disappeared from my sight.  I sat there...a little overwhelmed at how beautiful and wonderful that sight was to me.  I caught a slight smile on my face that apparently had moved in sometime during my voyeuristic episode. 

It made me think how great that would be to have that kind of love and respect for someone else and from someone else in my life...shucks...in ANYONE'S life.  It's funny how two complete strangers...totally oblivious to my existance...made such a HUGE impression on my day...on my way of thinking!  Just lets you know that you never know who sees you...you never know what kind of an impact you are making.  So as you stomp through life...add a smile to your face.  Hold that door open for the next person.  Acknowledge graciously that there is a world outside of your arm's length.  Have joy and share it!    And to think...

...today began as a hard day.

OK - I admit it...

...I lost it last week!  I am even more upset with myself that I let the actions of a few idiots impact my generally happy attitude to the degree it did.  (See the previous post.)  Honestly, I still have a hard time believing that a good man is out there... at least one with my name on him! :)  But you know, that's fine.  I was a complete woman before I met these folks and I will remain one and will be one despite their attempt to take part of me. 

Don't get me wrong...I am VERY open to receiving a good guy into my life.  Although I cannot say I have really ever had one, I miss having a good guy in my life.  My past record with men is horrible.  What you have seen in the previous post is not the worst of it nor all of it.  Considering the men that I have been involved with it is amazing that I even would be willing to be in a relationship...ever again!  I had a guy friend that was there during a lot of the mess years ago...and he would constantly say he could not figure out why I still had anything to do with men at all!  You know Greg, I am still asking myself that! LOL! 

Now I have had good guys in my life as friends.  (Usually until the wife/girlfriend got jealous about the relationship even though NOTHING was going on.)  SO I know those good guys are out there...they just are destined for someone else.  It's cool.  I have no problem with the fact that it appears that I am not supposed to have a real, good, loving relationship with my soulmate. 

When I was younger, I always thought I wonder what would happen if my soulmate was killed or died before we met.  Would God have a backup soulmate for me...is there a second string in relationships?  Do you go without your true partner in life and settle for second best...unknowingly?  Is that why so many of my girlfriends are single or suffering through horrible relationships or settling on lesbian relationships?  (which is not an option for me!) Do soulmates really exist or are they products of our ability to be flexible and applying ourselves like putty into the lives of others...filling in all the emotional holes? 

Maybe there are no answers to those questions.  Maybe we are supposed to go through life and just fall into our place and hope for the best.

Wonder if I am in my place...

In My Opinion...

I am beginning to believe that men are a waste of time.  They lie...they claim that they are different when there could be NOTHING farther from the truth.  They are incapable of having a relationship with anyone who is not a leech or needs to be rescued every 5 seconds...or a woman who doesn't need her bills paid.  My place in this world is not to be your concubine...your girl on the side or your slut.  I cannot believe women have allowed their sons to be that disrespectful of women!

I always thought that being independent and able to stand on my own were qualities that a REAL man would desire.  The more I bring to the table the farther along we are in achieving our common goals.  I guess that is not true.  I will NEVER apologize for being the successful and independent woman that I am!  I guess I am only on the path of the insecure men that feel threated by my skills!  That is too freaking bad!

So if you fit what I have said here and are a weak, fleeing man and you get upset...that is too bad.  If you are a REAL, strong man who is willing to have a woman beside you and not leaning on you to be carried through life, then I am your girl!

If you do not fit my preferences and you know what they are, don't waste your life telling me about the "errors of my ways".  Will you get upset if I do not spend EVERY waking minute in your face...then bye.   Think that I cannot live without your emotional bondage...wrong! 

I have said it before and I will say it again  I would rather be alone than with the wrong one!  So you are gone...that is good.  My back is strong but not strong enough to carry a weak man!

Thought for Today - 10/03/05

Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.

                                                                           Ralph Waldo Emerson

What A FuNked Up Week!

Have you ever had one of those weeks where you wish you could just ball it up and throw it in the trash?  I WANT A DO-OVER!  This past week absolutley sucked!  Work is stupid!  We are doing an AWESOME job and have been called on the carpet as a group for something stupid and irrelavent...told to play nice when we already do.  Sometimes I wonder if Mgmt does that to make people get frustrated and want to move on!  Well, it has come this close (*snap*) to working for me!  I am already frustrated at the lack of opportunities here.  Almost three years here with no evaluations, one pay raise, no true promotions, tons of nepotism, lots of backtracking and butt kissing (something that is not my style).  It is at the point this week that I am thinking back 15 years and wishing I had joined the military!  Darn that Marine recruiter for not being just a little more persuasive!  If he had put as much effort into recruiting me as he did hitting on me and my roommate, things could have been a lot different.  DOGGONE!  Maybe it is time to start thinking about relocating again!  I know in earlier posts I mentioned moving to the west coast but due to some changes in my family (which I will not go into here), that would not be a good idea. 

My next big event for my promotions company has been pushed from October 15 to FEBRUARY!  My web designer has disappeared off the face of the earth and I am stressed beyond belief!  I have a October 15 deadline for my sponsors or they are pulling their backing.  Anyone who knows me will tell you that I usually let things roll off me like water on a duck's back but this is stuck in my craw! (Along with many other things).

My personal life sucks!  I had met a guy online, thought things were great, but things are on hold.  Our plans to meet face to face are not working out.  His job is getting crazy so he will be working more cutting into the time we could meet.  I sure hope it is not all a lie.  If that is the case, I am glad I didn't meet him.  If it is not, I hope God knocks me over the head with some patience...and quick!  I still don't know why I was even trying something long distance...I know it has never worked before...but SHOOT nothing local as worked out so far or else I would not be single still! Sad thing is this seems like it could be a good thing.  I had even tried to move to the area where he is and that was before I met him but that has not worked out either! 

Alright - enough whining! :)  This is Moment One/Step One for the path to good, no GREAT things!  I know there is something great right around the corner and I graciously accept it!  It may involve people and things already in my life and I accept how much better it all is about to be!  I welcome that wonderful love that I have searched for for all of my life.  I welcome that beautiful sofa that will end my 4 year quest! :)  I welcome that new house for me and mine to live in wonderful brillant happiness in.  I welcome that brand new Gray GMC Envoy that wants to be parked in my garage!  I welcome the great health and job opportunities that want to flood my life!  Starting now, I am no longer defeated!  I am merely steps away from the awesome things my path holds! 

I guess it is time to "Get Ta Steppin'"   

Spotting Greg Austin....

So many folks have emailed me or talked to me about Greg Austin and how beautiful the "Long Distance Lovers" song is that I decided to post the tour information that I have for him for through the middle of October.  If you are in SC, you are in luck!    I will try to remember to update this in another post in a couple of weeks!

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Fri Sep 30 @ Jimmy's of Sumter in Sumter      Hwy 378       Sumter, SC       USA      Time: 9 pm - 1 am      $ 0.- cover/entrance fee      Tickets Hotline: 803-494-4944

Sat Oct 1 @ Jimmy's of Sumter in Sumter      Hwy 378       Sumter, SC       USA      Time: 9 pm - 1 am      $ 0.- cover/entrance fee      Tickets Hotline: 803-494-4944

Fri Oct 7 @ Shucker's by Mike in Sumter      401 Rast St.       Sumter, SC 29150      USA      Time: 9 pm - 2 am      $ 0.- cover/entrance fee      Tickets Hotline: 803-775-5304

Sat Oct 8 @ Hub's Package and Bar in Metter      10 N. Register St.       Metter, GA 30439      USA      Time: 8 pm - 12 am      $ 0.- cover/entrance fee      Tickets Hotline: 912-685-9342

Fri Oct 14 @ Top Gun Lounge in Sumter      Shaw Air Force Base       Sumter, SC       USA      Time: 5 pm - 10 pm      $ 0.- cover/entrance fee      Tickets Hotline: 803-666-3651

Moving On...

I know it has taken me more than two years but I am finally able to say I am letting go of my ex.  Recently, I have posted about how much I still missed him.  Now I know it was not Pete that I was missing but some of the ways I felt with him.  Thing was, it was all a lie.  I was feeling it but he wasn't even when he said he did.  But that is ok.  So just in case he is reading this, I want to say to him:

Pete,

I know you obviously did not know how hurtful it is to play with someone else's heart and feelings.  I want to believe that if you did, you would not have allowed yourself to do some of the things you did.  My greatest wish is that you are never hurt as much as you hurt me.  I pray that when you find the person you think is the love of your life, that she doesn't walk on your heart like it is a worn out door mat.  At this point in my life, I know that I cannot openly receive my true love or recognize my true soulmate as long as I am harboring any resentment for you.  Never will I regret standing beside you and supporting you even when you weren't there.  I am glad I was the bridge that carried you across those valleys you encountered while we were together.  I am proud to know that I am capable of being the person you really needed, even if you did not realize it or appreciate it.  I do wish you love so that one day you will know what to give back to someone who loves you.  Because of you, I have a better understanding of that and I am ready to give it back to someone who truly loves me, too.  So, I close not only this message but also your part of my life because I am ready to receive the great things that await me and I am ....

Moving On.

You are what?????

You know I never realized it until recently that I have been shocking a few folks that see my profile.  You see the name - DivaForWhitePrince...you see my love for country music - since I think Tim McGraw and Toby Keith are both delicious! LOL!  With all that...folks don't know I am African American!  LOL!  Too Funny!  I guess I forgot to add that to my profile over to the left!  Guess I had better do that! See the majority of the Yahoo Groups I belong to are for white men who date black women so I guessed that the visitors to my blog were from there....Oops!  Guess I will go change my profile now!  Haha!   

Yeah I Am A Country Girl!

It is so funny to me now.  All my formative years while Grandma force-fed me a Hee-Haw diet on Saturday nights, I TOTALLY hated Country music!  I often thought that if I had to listen to one more Charlie Pride, George Jones or (Grandma's Favorite) Roy Acuff song, every ounce of my pigmentation would just fall off me!  LOL!  Since I have been an adult, I have developed a taste for country music.  Tim McGraw (my personal favorite), Toby Keith (yes I have a thing for stocky cowboys, too), Keith Urban (when he talks, his accent throws me off! LOL!) and Lonestar are a few of the artists I have been listening to lately.  That is until today!  Many of you who visit my blog know me from YahooGroups that I belong to.  While checking out the members list to one of those groups tonight, I ran across a country music artist that belongs to the group as well.  His name is Greg Austin and he has a great song for those who have found love online or have a loved one that is far away from you.  If you like country music, take a moment to listen to Long Distance Lovers.  WHy don't you take a minute and let me know what you think of his song. Email me!

Where Have You Been!

I know! I know!  I said I was going to be more diligent about posting but things are wild lately!  Recently, I became one half of a promotions partnership and we already have a big event to set up....IN SIX WEEKS!  On top of that we have a website launch to do, employees to hire, loose ends to straighten out AND work our full time jobs!  (Can't let go of THAT yet!)  So watch out...we are on our way!