Cool New Chat Feature on Crush or Flush!

Chatting and online dating seem to go hand and hand these days.  You can't look into your potential sweetie's eyes but you can stare into the chat window of someone you really want to talk to on Crush on Flush's new chat client!

It does not allow your new interest to hide behind numerous profiles so they can mack with all the interesting ladies on the site.  One profile is allowed and tied to one cell phone number.  The number is used to verify the person who is signing up is a real person and not some skeezer with 15 different free email accounts.

And that's not all!  Crush or Flush only allows you to chat with someone who you have a Mutual crush on!  Didn't think that guy who crushed you was so hot?  Then don't worry, he will never get to chat and stalk you on Crush or Flush.  Only if you think he is fly will he get to talk to you. But you had better be on your game too!  That guy you just crushed may not crush you back.  If he doesn't then it's NO CHAT FOR YOU!

At What Point Did Today Go Back To 1960?

I was just ending my work day and thought I would check the weather.  The link to the following article got my attention (courtesy of WRAL.com):

Wal-Mart Altercation Leads to Charges

Donovan Patrick Williams faces weapons and drug charges after an incident outside the Greenville (NC) Wal-Mart Friday.

According to police, Williams accosted a bi-racial couple outside the store, then shot at their vehicle. Williams was charged with assault with a deadly weapon, discharging a firearm, marijuana possession and five other misdemeanors.

At a hearing on Monday, District Attorney Clark Everett declined to add a hate crimes charge to those Williams is facing. The racial aspect of Williams' alleged crimes will be taken into account in sentencing, Greenville police said. Copyright 2008 by WRAL.com. All rights reserved.

I cannot believe this.  Of course, no specifics about the races of the agressor or the couple have been released, but what happened!  Just when you think we are making progress, you see this!

 

Was the guy mad because his ex went over the color line?  Maybe his interracial love interest rejected him.  Maybe his behind is just crazy! 

 

What do you think?  Is this prevalent where you are?  Has anything like this (and hopefully not to this extent) ever happened to you?

 

I was approached once in a mall in Greensboro, NC.  I was with the white guy I was dating at the time.  He walked away to look at something and his "brotha" came up and starting cussing me out under his breath.  I replied with the not-so-nice version of "leave me alone, dummy" and not so quietly and walked off.  Suppose that fool had been as crazy as this guy. 

 

I didn't know this guy from a can of paint, but he felt the need to walk up to me and express his "opinion".  What did he expect me to do?  Walk away from "Jared" and live my life within the (color) lines?  What is wrong with people!

 

Geez!

 

Song choice for this one is obvious! 

 

It Don't Make Any Difference To Me

What the World Thinks About Us, Baby

In my heart I will always believe!

That we were meant for each other

Love ain't got no color

It don't make any difference to me

What they see...

 

Amen!

February 2008...Where's the Love???

Here I am two days after Valentine's.  I had a busy day so I decided to chill and hang out with a friend tonight.  Unfortunately, the flu has gripped him.  (He MAY have gotten it from me last week while he was being nice and bringing me dinner.)  Anyway, it gave me a chance to catch up on email, read some blogs of friends.  The thing that got me was the running theme of loneliness.
 
Many of us are older, single (most never married), professionals.  We are some male, some female.  All alone.  Most of us are in the neighborhood of 40...either seasoned residents or soon to move in.  All of us seemingly great people...just alone.

The blog that struck me the most was John's.  He has moved to Baltimore within the last year or so.  He talked about how his elderly neighbor existed, alone, no visitors, no relationship with his neighbors, nothing...just him and his cane.   His blog continued to compare his existence with that of his neighbor.  Exploring the differences (if any exist) and mostly the likeness of the two.  After reading, I found myself in the same boat.  I don't know any of my neighbors' names (except the two year old next door, Lucas.)   The chick below me is just evil walking.  Another neighbor?  She works graveyard so we just exchange polite "Morning"'s as I leave to begin my day and she is ending hers.  The other girl is only around when her parents come to visit (Her dad is one tough looking Marine...if he was my dad, I would fake it at this level, too!)

So, my analytic self moves on to the next point.  My train of thought is always: 1) Problem, 2) Desired solution, 3) Course of action and 4) Execute plan.

We know what the problem is:  we are alone but not satisfied with being alone.

What's the solution?  To have that wonderful partner of substance to be the icing on the cake of the wonderful lives we are building.

Here is where I am stuck:  Course of action.  What have we not done?  I have online profiles on dating sites.  I used to chat but work life has interrupted that.  Plus, considering my dating preferences, it is easier to find someone with the same mindset online.  What am I not doing?  Getting out...meeting people in real life. 
Maybe I do have my course of action.  Maybe I need to get out more.  But meanwhile, I want to reach out again.  My online friends and acquaintances are in the same boat.  What can we do for each other? 

It really sucks (and that's a technical term) that so many feel the same way!